As mentioned in the title of this lesson, there are times when I need to remind myself that I need to stop and think before I speak. Not always an easy task, since some of us, me included, tend to blurt something out before our brain has taken the time it needs to process what we are about to say, or actually in the middle of saying. Once something comes out of our mouth, no amount of apologies can take the words back, and in some cases can interfere or damage a good relationship for a very long time.
It is also wise to think before we react. Again, not always an easy task if we do not weigh the type of reaction our words may generate. Thinking before we decide is another good process to follow. Doing so can not only keep us out of trouble, but potentially limit the consequences of our well thought out decisions. Another helpful idea is thinking before we take action. Making decisions may not always be easy, but thinking through our options then deciding what action to take should at least help us select something that has a better chance of having a positive outcome. I suspect there will be times when we say or do something that we regret, but when it comes to thinking first, hopefully we can limit those times.
Thinking before we speak, thinking before we react, thinking before we decide, and thinking before we take action helps to demonstrate our maturity as a Christian. Some of us may have already learned to keep our mouths under control, but even if you have, the ability to stop and think is always a good thing for any of us to strive for.
Luke 6:41 – 42 (NKJV)
41 And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not perceive the plank in your own eye? 42 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me remove the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the plank that is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck that is in your brother’s eye.
Luke 10:25 – 28 (NKJV)
25 And behold, a certain lawyer stood up and tested Him, saying, “Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?” 26 He said to him, “What is written in the law? What is your reading of it?” 27 So he answered and said, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind,’ and ‘your neighbor as yourself.’ “28 And He said to him, “You have answered rightly; do this and you will live.”
Building up a relationship rather than tearing one down requires us to think first. Doing so seems like a healthy habit that we all should pursue.